In this week’s Thursday seminar, in the spirit of Valentine’s Day, the topic of safe love was recurring. In this, hearing from experts who are in the Ithaca community and in the Cornell community really helped to solidify that there are resources nearby for everyone, and I would not have to go through something traumatic like sexual assault alone. From personal experience, I feel as though there are times where I would not want to express my discomfort around a male who is making me uncomfortable. In a situation like this, one of the experts brought up an action step of what I can do to combat it: put out a feeler test to gage other people’s feelings toward the same person. This made me reflect on my past, because I have done this before and often times, I am not the only one who feels the same way I do. As a result of this,  it made me feel less crazy and safer to have an ally with me.