Talking and teenagers are often seemingly contradictory terms. As puberty hits, teens begin to assert their independence and may begin pushing their parents away. Parents oftentimes find themselves feeling like they are getting nowhere with their teens.
Here are a few techniques parents can consider to improve communication with their teen:
1 – Focus your questions, listen to the answers, and pause before you respond.
Try to ask questions that are more specific in nature. When teens are asked broad questions, it’s easier for them to provide vague answers. For example, instead of “How was school?” or “What did you do today?” try, “What was the hardest part of your day?” or “How do you like the book you are reading in English?”
Consider that while well-intentioned in their efforts to continue conversations, parents may launch into a monologue without realizing it. Pay attention to how much you are really listening to their responses.
Finally, take a breath before you respond. At times, your teen will tell you things that are upsetting or may trigger anxiety or an overresponse. Pausing before you respond can help you not rush to judgment and shows your teen you support them.
2 – Working on their own terms.
Teens are more likely to share their feelings in a place that feels comfortable to them. Oftentimes teens talk more freely when not having to make eye contact with their parents. Additionally, a time limited conversation, such as a car ride, can be an effective window in which to communicate. Capitalizing on these opportunities will help you connect with your teen on their own terms.
3 – Be present without an agenda.
Recognize that teens really appreciate it when adults are present without an agenda. Sometimes it’s healthy for teens to get their feelings out without using words. Understanding that there are non-verbal ways for them to express themselves by just being with you, or playing a game, or watching TV. These simple, non-verbal experiences can help teens find emotional relief with the adults in their lives.
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