Parents give a lot to their children—time, support, energy, money, attention, etc., often neglecting their own needs in the process. While the intent of giving everything to one’s children is a positive one and sounds admirable, it often results in parents feeling depleted and burned out. According to a recent study, 66% of working parents meet the criteria for parental burnout. This can leave parents and other primary caregivers feeling physically, emotionally, and mentally exhausted, leaving little energy and motivation to care for themselves. This can also lead to parents feeling resentful, depressed, anxious, disconnected from their children, partners, and loved ones, and feeling guilty that they are not enjoying parenting in the way that they may have expected.
Here are some tips for dealing with burnout:
1.) Do not neglect basic needs: drink enough water, eat balanced and regular meals, practice good hygiene, and get enough sleep. Getting the recommended amount of sleep leads to feeling less irritated, more patient, and more productive throughout the day.
2.) Incorporate individualized self-care into your life. This looks different for everyone and is based on your interests, time, and needs. Some examples include taking a yoga class, walking with a friend, trying out a new hobby, or setting aside time each day to read or watch a show.
3.) Let go of certain parenting expectations that you have set for yourself. Trying to be a perfect parent sets you and your children up for failure. Trust that you are doing a good job and that when you are flexible, your children learn to be flexible. Choose what works for you and your family, and don’t be afraid of trying something different.
4.) Ask for help. This can mean dividing household tasks with a partner, asking grandparents and other family members to babysit, or hiring a babysitter. This allows you to rest, have a date night, spend time with friends, or even run errands by yourself. It also gives your children the opportunity to connect with and trust other adults in their lives.
5.) Establish a support system: open up to trusted friends and family members, connect with local parenting groups for play dates and support groups, join an online community with parents who have children of similar ages and needs. These can all be resources that help you feel less alone and more connected.
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