At the Are You a Master of Love event last week, we discussed how and what it means to love a significant other. Love is not merely something one is “in”, but is something that needs to be exercised and nurtured over time. It is easy to become complacent and forget what the purpose of love is. Whether romantic or not, love is about people being fond of each other and making each other happy. People can lose sight of why they have the relationships they do and approach them as things to be gained and had rather than given. To maintain a relationship, each side must have empathy for the other and strive to make the connection work; otherwise, it will surely fail.
GRF Andrew mentioned a couple notable things that I had never thought about before. One thing he said was that he never goes to bed without first resolving the arguments he might have had with his wife. The idea not to go to bed angry or frustrated because of a conflict is enlightening. The nights I am anxious or vexed are the times I get my worst sleep, so it seems that not only is dealing with relationship issues before falling asleep helpful, but physically healthy too. Another valuable tidbit Andrew talked about was how to respond when one’s significant others are irritating. Instead of criticizing them, people should explain how what their partners did makes them feel. This communication creates an environment where each party wants to help the other rather than fight them for being ridiculous. Overall, making one’s feelings clear and being respectful of others’ allows everyone to be honest and able to analyze his or her situation better.