On Monday night, I attended what turned out to be my favorite Rose Scholars event of the semester. GRFs Andrew and Antonio led a discussion on romantic relationships—and what drives whether these relationships last or fail. Before the discussion, we all read Emily Esfahani Smith’s 2014 article “Masters of Love,” so we were familiar with the subject and excited to share our opinions. It was unanimous that we all considered kindness and compassion as paramount. In the article, Smith asserts how hurtful it is to one person when his/her partner shows no excitement when the other shares what he/she deems to be good news. Thinking back on a recent relationship, I now remember times at which I experienced this exact disconnect. Before reading the article, I had often wondered where things went wrong, but now I remember the sense of hurt and disappointment I experienced when my excitement was not warmly received.
It was really enjoyable hearing GRF Andrew’s story of meeting and eventually proposing to his wife of 10 years, and how communication is key in their relationship. Overall, what made this event stand out was the fact that I was able to connect with six other Rose Scholars and be a part of an hour-long discussion in a small group setting. I definitely plan to attend events like this next semester in Rose!