Despite my lack of personal experience with marriage, as a nineteen-year-old college student, I could tell that Marriage Story (2019) presented a more realistic portrayal of relationship dynamics compared to many other highly-fictionalised Hollywood film romances. Watching as protagonists Charlie and Nicole navigate the legal system with their attorneys opened my eyes to the painfully-high cost of divorce, an aspect that I had never considered before. I thought that Laura Dern portrayed Nora, Nicole’s lawyer, very well. I found her character impressive and irritating at the same time because she manages to successfully disguise braggadocio with a veil of sympathy and empathy: she brags about her own extensive career accomplishments but pretends to dismiss it nonchalantly by telling Nicole, “let’s make this about you” in a sickly-sweet voice at their first meeting. As the tension between Nicole and Charlie escalated throughout the film, I found myself torn between their sides in the conflict and frustrated at both of them. While I feel bad for Charlie that Henry, the couple’s son, preferred to spend time with Nicole, I also support Nicole’s efforts to find her own ground. I appreciated how director Noah Baumbach symbolised their close yet awkward relationship with the scene where Charlie and Nicole draw the house gate closed together but end up on opposite sides afterwards. Additionally, I loved how Baumbach incorporated a conversation on double standards into the film and addressed how there is much greater pressure on women to be “good” parents than on men. Unfortunately, sexism is still common in the twenty-first century, and I believe that this scene was incredibly necessary. Although not as exciting as the previous Friday Films, Marriage Story thoroughly explores relevant themes such as modern romance, the overwhelming complexity of the justice system (confusing legal jargon such as “serving” papers, and all the attorneys Charlie had to consult), self-confidence, and the idea of belonging somewhere. After seeing Marriage Story, I realise that open and honest communication and direct cooperation are sometimes more valuable and productive than involving third parties and bitter arguments about who was right or wrong.
Side-note: Adam Driver has a surprisingly decent singing voice.
Favourite quote: “Criminal lawyers see the worst people at their best, and divorce lawyers see good people at their worst.”