As a parent or caregiver, witnessing your child’s transition from high school to college is a momentous occasion, brimming with pride, excitement, and perhaps a hint of apprehension. This pivotal juncture marks the commencement of a new chapter in your child’s life—boundless opportunities for personal growth and autonomy. However, for students who are neurodivergent or have developmental disabilities, navigating this transition presents its own unique set of obstacles.

In this blog, we delve into the intricacies of this transition, offering insights on how to effectively support our children during this transformative period. We provide you with practical strategies while underscoring the significance of prioritizing self-care and wellness for parents and caregivers.

Supporting Neurodivergent Students and Students with Developmental Disabilities

The transition can be particularly challenging for neurodivergent students or those with developmental disabilities. They may need help to adapt to new social environments, handle academic workloads, or live independently. However, this transition also offers opportunities for personal growth, such as learning to manage schedules and self-advocate.

As a parent of a neurodivergent child, my son Zhaid, who is in 10th grade and has Down Syndrome, we are already seeking suitable post-high school programs to ease his transition. We’re introducing him to community social programs to build his social skills and confidence. His transition to a nonacademic or life skills program will differ from that of other students moving on to college.

Early Preparation

It is crucial for this group to prepare early for life after high school, whether it involves further education, specialized programs, or entering the workforce. The transition process is often more prolonged and complex, requiring extra time and resources. Early and thorough preparations significantly impact students’ ability to succeed and thrive in their new environment.

Individualized Support Plans

Work with the college’s disability services to create an individualized support plan. This might include academic accommodations, like extended time for exams or note-taking assistance, assistive technology like speech-to-text software, or tailored support services such as peer mentoring or counseling. These plans are designed to meet each student’s unique needs and ensure they have the necessary resources to succeed.

**Understanding 504 Plans vs. Individualized Support Plans**

A 504 Plan supports K-12 students with disabilities to provide equal access to education. After high school, colleges offer individualized support plans through their disability services offices. These plans aim to provide reasonable accommodations without altering the educational program. Transitioning from a 504 Plan to a college’s support plan requires proactive communication with the institution for continuity of support.

Building Self-Advocacy Skills

Please encourage your child to advocate for their needs. This can involve practicing communicating their requirements to professors and peers. Building these skills early on can empower your child to take charge of their accommodations and support.

Emotional Support

It’s essential to check in regularly on their emotional well-being, especially when transitioning to college, a new day program, or work. The changes can be overwhelming, so maintaining open communication is essential. Regularly discussing their feelings and experiences will help them feel supported and understood.

Self-Care and Wellness for Parents and Caregivers

While our primary focus is on supporting our children, we must also acknowledge the importance of our well-being. Self-care and wellness are essential to ensure we can provide the best support possible. By prioritizing our needs, we model the value of self-care and set a positive example for our children.

Mindfulness and Stress Management

Incorporating mindfulness practices like meditation, yoga, or simple breathing exercises into your daily routine can help you manage stress and maintain emotional balance.

Physical Health

A short walk as time allows, with balanced diet and adequate sleep. Physical well-being significantly impacts emotional resilience and overall health.

Use Your Support System

Connect with other parents, caregivers, and family members going through similar experiences.

Set Boundaries

Establish boundaries to ensure you have time for yourself. by

Professional Help

Therapists or counselors can provide coping strategies and support for both you and your child.

 

The journey from high school to college and beyond is a transformative period for students and parents. For neurodivergent students and those with developmental disabilities, the journey may require additional planning and support. By preparing early, advocating for necessary support, and prioritizing self-care, we can navigate this transition successfully and help our children thrive in their new environments.

As we approach this new chapter, every milestone should be celebrated, no matter how small. The resilience, determination, and courage our children demonstrate daily are inspiring.

To every parent and caregiver walking this path, know that your dedication and efforts make a profound difference. The road ahead may have challenges, but it is filled with endless possibilities and moments of triumph. Together, as a community, we can ensure that our children not only navigate this transition but also flourish and find their place in the world—cheers to their success and new journey.

Below are resources that can assist you and your child as you navigate this transition:

• National Center for College Students with Disabilities (NCCSD): This organization offers resources and information to help students with disabilities succeed in college. They can help you navigate the college application process, understand your rights and responsibilities as a student with a disability, and access academic accommodations and support services.
• Autism Speaks Transition Tool Kit: This toolkit provides a comprehensive guide for individuals with autism and their families as they transition to adulthood.
• Think College: A resource dedicated to developing, expanding, and improving inclusive higher education options for people with intellectual disabilities.
• The Mighty: An online community where parents of neurodivergent children can share stories, find support, and access resources.
• Jed Foundation: Focuses on emotional health and suicide prevention among teens and young adults, offering resources for students and parents.

Local Information in Orange County, NY

• Think Differently: Think Differently Orange County, NY
• The Transition Council @Orange-Ulster BOCES: A collaborative group supporting students successfully transitioning from school to adult life. Home – Orange-Ulster BOCES
• The Center for Discovery: A major research and specialty center offering residential, medical, clinical, and special education programs. The Center for Discovery
• Access VR. Welcome to ACCES-VR | Adult Career and Continuing Education Services | NYS Education Department.
• SUNY Bridges-The Traditional BRIDGES Pathway at SUNY Orange is a comprehensive three-year suite of noncredit workshops for anyone interested in learning and improving the basic skills of adulthood. Students have the flexibility to choose full time or part time enrollment in any of our six workshops, based on their goals. Students may also choose to audit additional courses offered through the college catalog if they are interested in taking additional courses.

Your Family Matters,

Addy