Clubbing Etiquette in China VS. USA April 15, 2009Posted by hck1 in : Uncategorized , trackback
Note: This entry was posted on behalf of Alex, who cannot access his blog from China due to governmental restrictions on the internet. It has not been edited or changed in any way.
As a young socialite in Shanghai, I have been to my fair share of dance clubs/bars/karaoke spots in the city enjoying what Shanghai has to offer. There are definitely differences between going to your local club in the States versus going to some of the clubs in Shanghai. I have went to a wide variety of bars and clubs over the past 2 months from all native Chinese techno bar to laowei (foreigner) central with all of the familiar songs like Soldier Boy.
China definitely has a serious advantage when it comes to good, cheap drinks. Open Bar can run from 100-250 Chinese Dollars (running from 15 to 35) for drinks all night. Also, thanks to the one-child policy it’s even better for ladies who can find a ladies’ night with free drinks at least at one bar in Shanghai. Still costs money for me.
Music is pretty much the same, Chinese people love American hip-hop/rap even though most of the time they have no idea of what the artist is trying to stay. They still like Lil’Wayne, Jay-Z and alike.
Girls are equally hot and are the same anywhere in the world. If you can’t buy them a drink or buy a table to sit and chat, they don’t want to talk. That’s just women, you look a lot better when you look like you have a little bit of money.
Dancing/Conversations with the Opposite Sex
This is probably the biggest difference between the US and China that I have discovered over the months. When it comes dancing and conversation, native Chinese likes intrigue and not too aggressive guys. As my Chinese roommate described, if you are interested in a native Chinese girl in a club you can’t be forward like in the US. In the US, if you say it in the right way you can probably be specific as possible about certain actions and still be in the girl’s good graces. Usually you have to make comments like oh, this club is fun, I really like this music, or any kind of random observation. After you have gained her attention, you have to really talk her up, and what I mean by that is you might need to dance and talk to her for hours just in order to get her number…. just to have a shot of getting her phone number. It’s a good thing, because it seems old-fashioned where you are less likely for those regrettable hook-ups and you remember a lot more than the girl’s name after you meet her. Another difference is dancing, I know it’s still a relatively new thing, but in China native Chinese don’t grind at most you can have an A-Shape dance. It reflects the more formal culture of China with the dancing and hitting on girls. It’s also been hard on me now because when I was grinding against a girl in the US the girl was expected to have the entire dance moves I just stood there and bopped back and forth. Now I am asked to always figure out a way to dance with a girl that keeps her entertained. What a change!
All of the clubs are pretty amazing, so I have many funny recollections of nights spent in the street, which I will save for another entry.